Sexologist Debunks Biggest Sex Myth, Cautions Against ‘Extra Time’ Condoms

Top Sex Myth Debunked: Expert Warns Against Misconceptions Fueled by Porn and Numbing Condoms.

Sexual health myths continue to influence expectations and cause anxiety—especially among young adults navigating intimacy. In the June 26 episode of Figuring Out With Raj Shamani, certified sexologist Dr. Sankalp Kumar Jain—founder of AskDrJain, Arunveda, ErectiCare Pro, and Fertimacy—debunked some of the most damaging misconceptions around sex, including unrealistic performance standards popularized by pornography.

The Most Harmful Sex Myth
Dr. Jain identified a major myth he encounters regularly: the belief that sex should last 30 minutes or more, as portrayed in adult films.

“In porn, what people don’t realize is that actors often inject their penises with papaverine, a vasodilator that induces and sustains an erection for extended periods. It’s medically unsafe and absolutely unnatural,” he explained.

He also raised concerns about “extra time” condoms, which contain numbing agents to delay ejaculation.

“These products use anesthetic lubricants that numb the penis, which can interfere with natural arousal and sensitivity. While they may prolong sex, they come at the cost of reduced pleasure and potential long-term harm.”

What Does ‘Normal’ Sex Actually Look Like?
According to Dr. Jain, healthy and satisfying sex doesn’t need to mirror what’s seen on screens.

“On average, penetrative sex lasts 15 to 20 minutes, with approximately 40 to 50 strokes. What matters more is connection—physical, emotional, and psychological,” he said.

He further broke down the act into three core elements: foreplay, roleplay, and rounds—underscoring that intimacy is a dynamic and personal experience, not a performance.

Prioritizing Sexual Wellness
In a 2023 interview with HT Lifestyle, fertility specialist Dr. Ritu Hinduja of Nova IVF Fertility reinforced the need for open communication and conscious sexual health practices.

“Understanding your body, speaking openly with your partner, and practicing safer sex are essential—no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship or how many partners you’ve had.”

Both experts agree: it’s time to move beyond myths and embrace informed, respectful, and realistic perspectives on intimacy.